sex or love?
a piece of encounter
love does not change just because circumstances change
let's face it, so many people mix up, confuse love and sex, intertwining both, mistaking one for the other, that when they say, "i'm in love," all they really mean is, "i'm loving the sex that i'm having with you."
and so the question is asked, can we really love someone without having sex with them?
i know that we can have sex without loving, but does the opposite apply?
the truth is, we are all born virgins, devoid and bereft of sex, and live for many years without any desire at all
but the fact of the matter is, it was sex that brought us here, so the genesis of our very existence lies in the carnal act
also, if some of us only knew what circumstances brought us here, we wouldn't be so smug and judgemental of other people
some may have been conceived through love, yes, but i daresay that a lot were brought here through mere carnal pleasure, the byproduct of a lusty, loveless encounter, a fleeting moment of sin, perhaps even a one night stand
but what is true, in many cases, at that very moment, either the words "i love you" were uttered, or at least one party thought that love was involved
sadly it's usually the woman who thinks this
wake up and smell the musk, it was not love, just sex
still, you will never be able to convince some people that they weren't in love, while the reality is, they were merely in sex
but can we really love someone without having sex with them?
some people, men especially, will lie about it, saying that they can love a woman without having sex with her, but all they really mean is that they are masters of patience, and can play the waiting game for months on end, for he knows that in the end, if he waits her out, untold pleasures will come his way eventually
so the words will say, "honey, i love you, and sex really does not matter, it's not your body, but your mind that i want."
but the thoughts really are, "i will hold out as long as it takes, and i will tolerate your stringing me along, but eventually you will give in, and i will have my way."
and yet there are people, and men, yes men, who can genuinely love a woman without sex being a part of the equation
but we must be honest with ourselves, can we really love our partner if no sex is involved?
if one day your man came home and said to you, "honey, i have found the Lord, i have given up my life for Him, sex is a sin, so we must cease and desist,"
what would you do?
or if your woman said the same thing, or heaven forbid, something should happen like a physical illness or mental disorder that rendered either party incapable of having sex, would either one stay?
love without sex, perhaps it's just a fantasy, for some, when the sex goes, so do they, but with true love, they'll stay through thick and thin, sex or no sex
as one married man told me, "of course i can love without sex, after all I've been married for twenty years now, and i still love my wife."
more time !
a piece of encounter
love does not change just because circumstances change
let's face it, so many people mix up, confuse love and sex, intertwining both, mistaking one for the other, that when they say, "i'm in love," all they really mean is, "i'm loving the sex that i'm having with you."
and so the question is asked, can we really love someone without having sex with them?
i know that we can have sex without loving, but does the opposite apply?
the truth is, we are all born virgins, devoid and bereft of sex, and live for many years without any desire at all
but the fact of the matter is, it was sex that brought us here, so the genesis of our very existence lies in the carnal act
also, if some of us only knew what circumstances brought us here, we wouldn't be so smug and judgemental of other people
some may have been conceived through love, yes, but i daresay that a lot were brought here through mere carnal pleasure, the byproduct of a lusty, loveless encounter, a fleeting moment of sin, perhaps even a one night stand
but what is true, in many cases, at that very moment, either the words "i love you" were uttered, or at least one party thought that love was involved
sadly it's usually the woman who thinks this
wake up and smell the musk, it was not love, just sex
still, you will never be able to convince some people that they weren't in love, while the reality is, they were merely in sex
but can we really love someone without having sex with them?
some people, men especially, will lie about it, saying that they can love a woman without having sex with her, but all they really mean is that they are masters of patience, and can play the waiting game for months on end, for he knows that in the end, if he waits her out, untold pleasures will come his way eventually
so the words will say, "honey, i love you, and sex really does not matter, it's not your body, but your mind that i want."
but the thoughts really are, "i will hold out as long as it takes, and i will tolerate your stringing me along, but eventually you will give in, and i will have my way."
and yet there are people, and men, yes men, who can genuinely love a woman without sex being a part of the equation
but we must be honest with ourselves, can we really love our partner if no sex is involved?
if one day your man came home and said to you, "honey, i have found the Lord, i have given up my life for Him, sex is a sin, so we must cease and desist,"
what would you do?
or if your woman said the same thing, or heaven forbid, something should happen like a physical illness or mental disorder that rendered either party incapable of having sex, would either one stay?
love without sex, perhaps it's just a fantasy, for some, when the sex goes, so do they, but with true love, they'll stay through thick and thin, sex or no sex
as one married man told me, "of course i can love without sex, after all I've been married for twenty years now, and i still love my wife."
more time !
